This is a piece written by Lesli Johnson. It was published by the huffington post last week. She does a great job of writing about the adoption experience generally speaking, which is incredibly difficult to do without being offensive.
Her article is by no means perfect but it is by far the best of its type I’ve read. A few excerpts that really resonated with me are:
“Adoption is not a substitute for having a biological child nor is it a way of “replacing” a child who dies. Adoption IS one of many ways to make a family.”
” Hoping if they go along, they will keep their place in the adoptive family. The adoptee is forced to develop a “false self.”
“Many adoptees deny their desire to search thinking that they are going to hurt their adoptive parents’ feelings.”
Thanks for others sharing this as well. One of my big concerns though is that huffington post published this under their “women” section which doesn’t make and damn sense. Silly newspapers.
Anyway check it out here.
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Kumar, this is such a great piece. I notce what you said about them publishing it under the women’s section. I didn’t notice that. What a mistake on their part. I think it means a lot for you to keep talking about adoption because it’s true that there are not enough men writing about the issue. Some, but not enough.
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Thanks! Yeah I often wish I found more men talking about their experiences, but hopefully the more who talk the more will join the conversation.
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I can relate to many of the things on this list, thanks for sharing it.
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