I was Not Touched by Adoption and Other Final NAAM Thoughts

Friend speaks my mind.

Red Thread Broken


Some of you have probably seen this optional Facebook profile picture template used by people in your personal networks to promote November as National Adoption Month and National Adoption Awareness Month (NAAM). I have seen adoptees and adoptive parents alike with this border, but I will not put this overlay on my profile picture. I have been undoubtedly affected by adoption, but I would never say that “I am touched by adoption.” Adoption pulled, tugged, and dragged me across the world without asking me. Adoption demanded that my core identity, family, and nationality change. Adoption forces me to live a life in question of basic information like my birthdate, place, name, and medical history. People would not say that individuals have been “touched” by home foreclosure, refugee status, or other forms of displacement, and it doesn’t make sense in the context of adoption, either. Using positive rhetoric, like “I am touched…

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In the land where adoption is win-win-win

Thanks TAO. Reminders of the persistence of harmful ways to frame adoption, particularly to those who have been adopted.

The adopted ones blog

An article was posted that had Tummy Mommy in the title, I knew I should avoid it, the title told me it would make me upset. I clicked anyway. Dumb, dumb idea.

I read it. I read it right to the bitter end.

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To Reunion or Not

Months ago, in therapy, I told Dr. R that I had some emotional fantasies about reunion allowing me to close a chapter in my life. Allowing me to move on to the rest of my life, clean and simple. In some ways not pursuing reunion feels like it is holding me back. Not being in … Continue reading To Reunion or Not

your defense of immigrants is fucking colonialist


The Bridge to Texangeles

This past week, Donald Trump showed his ass. So did white liberals. You know, the ones swathing themselves in American flags and holding pictures of dead Syrian children. For a moment I thought the alt-right had gone so far right it was left again, because some of the white liberalism I witnessed at #NoWallNoBan actions this weekend was downright imperialist in the name of immigration. 

“Yo!” you protest, “Stop criticizing the people that are joining the movement! They should be rewarded with freshly baked cookies and golden safety pins for their allyship!”. To which I reply, without criticism, the only movement that these white liberals are joining is the United States’ movement to colonize the globe. People need to understand what they’re fighting, and it is unfortunately abundantly clear they will never reach this understanding without my salty first generation immigrant opinions ruining their day, nor the voice of other…

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The Adopted Life Episodes – COMING SOON

Angela Tucker


I am very excited to launch The Adopted Life Episodes campaign!

I plan to host a series where I speak one-on-one with transracially adopted youth posing developmentally appropriate questions in a conversational and journalistic approach. Each episode will feature between 10 transracially adopted youth and will be edited to an estimated run-time of ten to fifteen minutes. My husband, filmmaker Bryan Tucker, will film each episode and we will co-edit them together. I am purposefully launching this campaign during National Adoption Month, in an effort to provide a platform to the lesser heard voices; adoptees and foster youth. Head on over to Kickstarter to learn more about this venture.


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Changing Face

I don't write much. I often wish I wrote a lot more than I do. I often want to write about things other than adoption, ALS and family. I like writing short stories and just about my life in general as a result I am rebranding this blog. In effect, I am changing faces. I'll … Continue reading Changing Face

Mocking “Foreign Accents” and the Privilege of “Sounding White”

Mocking "Foreign Accents" and the Privilege of "Sounding White" Well written and well said by MastQalander at Muslim Reverie. I think this piece is remarkably important and to international adoptees, and their families, in particular. It certainly urges us to examine one of the ways in which we are privileged that does not gain a … Continue reading Mocking “Foreign Accents” and the Privilege of “Sounding White”

Signing Off

Dear Blogosphere (I love that term): I have had a great time blogging and "meeting" fellow bloggers. As of this post I am signing off from Stuckout. Its been a wonderful adventure and I may return, but for the forseeable future this is all for now. I greatly appreciate those who have read my jibberish … Continue reading Signing Off

One Lovely Blog Award

First I want to thank Marisha and Luanne from Don't We Look Alike? for nominating me for the One Lovely Blog Award. From the beginning of my blogging career (about 4 months ago) Marisha and Luanne have offered me feedback and encouragement in my own writing. They have also helped me to continue to write … Continue reading One Lovely Blog Award